"Understand the difference between being a banger and playing aggressively. There IS a difference!
A "banger" is a player who hits the ball hard because he or she can't do anything else or simply doesn't want to do anything else. They rip the ball and hope that the pace of the ball can make the opponent make a mistake or hit a weak reply. They rarely hit drop shots or lobs or use much in the way of strategy. This type of player is typically impatient and will get frustrated if too many of their hard hit shots are returned.
Playing aggressively is much different, although hard hit shots are certainly part of an aggressive playing style.
An aggressive player understands that well executed drop shots, dinks, serves and serve returns, and even the occasional lob can be very effective in forcing errors by his or her opponents. An aggressive player uses drops and dinks to get set up shots that they can put away or gain an advantage with. Many times a good drive is appropriate and the aggressive player oftentimes knows how to use it well. This player is patient enough until they get a chance to attack a ball they know they can take advantage of.
The best players are aggressive with their placement of dinks, drops, returns of serve, serves, and even lobs. They are deliberate!
Next time you practice, consider being aggressive on pop-ups and weak shots on your side. But make sure to understand when to hold back if it's not the right opportunity. If you're simply trying to rip every ball you aren't being agressive, you're playing low percentage pickleball and being a mere banger. Please try to understand the difference."
-DJ from Pickleball Forum post.